The price of weddings these days, have gotten WAY out of control. A thousand dollars for this, a thousand dollars for that, ten thousand for your venue!
I definitely agree with making your wedding day special, but moving into the poor house over it, is not a great way to start off one of the happiest times of your time. Here at T.Lynn Photography, we’ll do our best to help you arrange the wedding of your dreams, on a meager budget!
1. Pick a budget
Sure, you’re thinking this sounds easy! But, that’s not always the case. Wedding’s cost more than you think, these days. So the best place to start in planning your budget, is to get an idea of what things cost in your area.
Once you’ve picked a budget, set it in stone! Don’t budget on it, unless you absolutely have to. If you step over that line once, what says you won’t do it again for those pretty centerpiece or that chocolate fountain? Draw a line in the sand, make it official and avoid adding more money to the budget.
The next part of picking a budget, is to determine where the money is coming from? Are you and future hubby paying? Are his parents? You’re parents? Rich relatives? Are you taking out a loan? Determine where the money is coming from and this could help with picking your budget. If it’s not your money, then sit down with the giver and ask them what the limit is. Find out if they’re comfortable with you spending $5,000 on a dress, when you could get the same dress used for $500.
2. Think it through, don’t impulse buy
I know! I know what you’re thinking! But the lady at the dress store said if I don’t purchase it now, it may be gone, when I come back! And that’s okay. If you’re not 100% sold on the dress, it’s pretty likely you’ll find something you like better. Too often I meet with brides who have purchased two or three or even four dresses, because they liked it and didn’t want to miss the opportunity. Problem is, reselling those dresses is WAY harder than you thought. Some girl’s try to sell them for years, before the item gets donated to a charity or thrift shop.
It’s the same with décor, even though this is a little easier to offload. Work with your wedding planner or Pinterest, to decide exactly what it is you want for your centerpiece. Maybe purchase one table setting worth of items and do a mock-up, before committing.
One other thing to think about is avoiding things that other people want for your wedding. Unless they’re paying for it, this is you and your future hubby’s special day and they’re just tagging along. Do only what makes the two of you happy!
This one hits home for me. My wedding menu was completely out of control, by the day of the wedding. As my husband and I are both chefs, on top of my photography, we made our own food, with the help of some family. On top of that, I had Rubbermaid containers full of decorations that weren’t needed, as I didn’t plan ahead. I didn’t count the tables or plan a seating arrangement, I didn’t check with the venue, to see if I could hang things on the walls. So plan ahead, don’t impulse buy.
3. Narrow down your invite list
Again, I know! This one is difficult! You’ll be bound to step one someone’s toes. But is that $10 toaster from your great aunt Better (who divorced your uncle!) worth the cost of her dinner, the table decorations, for adding another table, the drinks she’ll have?
To make it easy, pick the absolutely must have people first. Our moms and dads, Hubby’s brother, your sister brother and their babies, grandma and grandpa. Who are the people you really want there, to share the magic of your day with?
And then, only then if it’s in your budget slowly work through those “it’d be nice if they were there, but it’s not like my mom being there!” people. Stop at your limit! Again, see tip number one! Budget, Budget, Budget! If it’s not in the budget to have 300 people, you better stop inviting people at your 100 person max!
Trust me, those people who don’t get invited, will get over it. If they have such a big problem with it, remind them that they aren’t paying for this day and if they don’t want to contribute a couple hundred dollars to cover their meal, drinks, table décor, and ect, apologize and tell them, you’ve reached max capacity and there is just no way to squeeze in any more guests.
4. Think differently
Not everything is as it seems. A place you didn’t expect to be a wedding venue, could be a beautiful wedding venue! I attended a phenomenal wedding at a local aquarium, a few years back. They had the ceremony in a dimly lit area, with the tank as the alter. It was unique and somehow screamed the couple’s name. It was something that could have not been so magical, had they had a church wedding, or an outdoor wedding.
There are plenty of places that offer this kind of service, which may not be what you’d initially think as a wedding venue. So think outside the box and get a little crazy, if it suits your personality.
It’s the same with décor! Get creative and crafty (if you’re that kind of person!) and come up with something amazing. Table décor doesn’t have to cost $100 or more a table!
Look at it this way, you and your future hubby love to read! You’ve got more books then you know what to do with! You’re a lover of tea, he loves coffee. And you’re in love with vintage everything! Well you just planned your dream wedding, without knowing it. Think outside the box. It sounds like you’d enjoy a “garden party” wedding. You can always pull the dust cover off some of those books you’ve already got and bam, they “look” old. Stack them on the table, with some flowers (real or fake, depending on your budget!), put some candles down and you’ve got an inexpensive table set up. Set up a little coffee and tea bar in the corner or under a tea and you’re in business!
This isn’t the 80’s weddings can be anything you want them to be!
Thanks for stopping by! We’re glad you found us! And keep checking in, for more tips on planning your big day! Next week, we’ll be talking about hiring a wedding vendor!